If you suck at getting love, before you put a bullet in your head please read this!

Greetings beautiful people

I think people in world today want love. I believe the average person, isn’t looking for Mr or Ms. Right, but if they found them, they’d more than likely embrace the opportunity. I’m the kind of person who wanders the world and accidently my future “Ex” always manages to appear. I’m never pressed or on some mission to make that connection. I’m never yearning, stressing, hoping or anything of that sort. I’m just living. I believe what will be, will be. Everything is exactly how it should be, no matter how good or bad. Now here is where I contradict myself. When I do want something or someone, I take the proper steps to acquire that which I desire.

Dating is one of the most stressful things in the world. It can feel like your on a constant job interview or you’re interviewing perspective employees. Yet, then again isn’t that what it’s kinda like? When you go for a job, presentation is everything! It’s the resumé you submit, the outfit, the haircut, the handshake, your credentials, and everything that comes out of your mouth. We package ourselves to get that great new job, so why not do it get that great new mate?

I’ve been in dialogue with someone wants to be in a relationship and just have someone to love on an intimate level. That’s completely understandable. What isn’t understandable is the motivation and the steps either being taken or not being taken achieve that goal.

I don’t believe we should so painfully yearn for something that’s basic human desire. It’s okay to ache from love, but not for love. That alone can be a catalyst for failure when looking for a spouse.

This person I’ve had dialogue with, taught me about presentation. Really! I was mess back in the day. They taught me how dress appropriately and look the best I can at all times. They taught how to be myself continually but at the same time have manners and tact (which I’m still learning). They taught me how to be charming without being sappy. They taught me how to nice without being a push over. They taught me how to be strong without destroying a city. Finally they taught me how to be a package. Sure I brought some things to the table like being artsy and smart, but they showed me how to use that to magnify my grown man status.

So now I find myself listening to someone who wants something, but doesn’t have the motivation to take the steps to get it. Look if love is something that you want, then get it. If a person wants someone to be (more than just a friend) interested in them, then that should be clear from the beginning. I hear stories of people falling in love and having relationships with their friends, but that’s like bad chick flick sh*t. Knowing all the dirt your friends do, do you really want to be in a relationship with them? Didn’t think so.

How do you look? What do you wear? What do you talk about? What are your interest? How do you smell? Do you work out? Do you have a job? Do you have a car? Do you have a place to live? How is your credit? Are you super nice? Are you an asshole? Are you a quiet person? Are you loud? These are just a few questions to ask yourself about yourself when looking for a mate. Notice I haven’t mentioned sex at. While it’s super important, it’s also super easy to get. It’s finding someone you like and can tolerate long enough to not want to put a gun to your head. That’s difficult.

Everyone wants substance. We want that perfect, cool, intelligent, witty, amazing person to spend time with. The thing with substance is, it’s like good fruit from the grocery store. No matter how good it taste on the inside it still has to look ripe, have the right feel, and look pretty on the outside. Consider yourself a melon. Would you want to squeeze you? If so, cool. Now ask yourself, why are you the only one?

“A new me is coming through yeah, I’m go get myself together!”-taken from “A New Me”-performed by Jamie Lydell. A very poignant phrase to end this blog on.

Until next time beautiful people

Yo brotha

Ty